Sunday, 11 May 2014

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY MUMMY

LAST Sunday, Aishah, Ammar, Adam and Ariff sat together with the Minister of Women's Affair and Family Development at their home. That day was also Mother's Day.

  It was a nice surprise for the children, because the Minister Dato Rohani, who is also a mother, flew in from Kuala Lumpur to meet the four children whose parents are serving imprisonment for "violating their integrity" or in plain English, disciplining their children for misbehaviour.

 The Minister's visit was to see the children and their progress since they returned to Malaysia a few months ago from Sweden. It was also to spend Mother' Day with them.

The return was successful arranged by Wisma Putra and Tourism Malaysia with the co-operation of the Swedish Government.

  Looking at them, we know how much they missed their parents, especially their mother. The children do not hate their parents, they love them.

 Every now and then, the children wrote letters and sent post cards to their parents. And all they wanted is to have their parents back in Malaysia.

 There is nothing much anyone can do now. The parents, have to complete their jail sentenced before they can return home.

 We hope that soon the moment of the family being together again will take place.

  To Shalwati, the children wished you Happy Mother's Day.  We wait for your return.


 

Saturday, 29 March 2014

Shalwati's letter to her children, family and friends



STOCKHOLM, Mac 22 2014

Assalamualikum WBT, kids, family and friends...

I learnt something from an inmate during my promanade (walk) today. I hardly join the other inmates because nearly everybody smoke. So today after all my wirids are done and I saw them (there are two groups here 1. Swedes all five of them 2. Foreigners - 8 of them - Bolivians, Spainards, Polish and Romainians. I usually join the Swedes for breakfast and the Spainards (3 of them) during gym time.)
No longer berasap/smoking, I went and sat with them. One of the Polish was sharing her cerita. Here I will cuba tulis dalam Bahasa Malaysia.

  Dia di halau emak pada usia 15 tahun. Ibu dah tak betul/sasau sebab ayah dia (suami) bunuh diri. Jadi dia hidup merempat. Asalnya dia mahu jadi seorang doktor tapi harapan itu berkecai. Dia malu dan tidak mempunyai tempat tinggal. And again because she was shocked to be homeless and without duit, dia tinggal dan tidur di kaki lima tempat orang parking basikal. So her life changed. She had to survive. This part I missed as she must have shared her stories earlier so I don't know did to survive. But basically you can teka apa di buat untuk hidup. Jual diri dia, mencuri atau berkerja. Dia masuk penjara seawal 17 tahun and katanya sebab dia dibuang keluarga sewaktu kanak kanak lagi dia ingin mempunyai keluarga sendiri so that she be loved. Jadi dia kahwin awal. Namun suaminya yang dia nggap keluarga hurt her more. Dia tak share this part tapi katanya he forced her to do things. This leaves to my/your imagination. :((

At times she said when she see her insane mother she forgave her (I think there is nothing to forgive here because the mother is mentally unstable) and will always love her.

A spainard mencelah and said this story made her appreciate her family more. Everybody were teary-eyed.

Life is hard for others. You kids should be thankful for you have a roof to call home and family who loved you. Appreciate and be thankful for every single things you have. When you crave for something that is beyond your reac, because mummy and daddy refused to give it you. Think of others who have less than what you have.

I am thankful Allah gives me this opportunity to see "others" though many times I cry because I miss all at home. This make me value life more. Alhamdullilah, I am still alive and able to breathe in Allah's fresh air.


You kids are given opportunities that many are not getting them: special attention from our family - Aunty Sally, Uncle Farid, Aunt La, Aunt Linda, Uncle Bud etc, from the schools, special teachers to look after your education and support from the Government. So make use of these. Please study hard so you will be a successful Muslim and help others in need.

  Will write again. Insyallah. May Allah bless, protect and nuture you kids. I love you kids and thank you all for the endless support you  have given to us.

 Love Shal/Mummy    














Thursday, 13 February 2014

UNBELIEVABLE SWEDEN

IS that the best you could do to Azizul Raheem Awaluddin and Shalwati Norshal Ms Public Prosecutor?

You accused the real parents of Aisyah, Ammar, Adam and Arif for violating their integrity but chose to ignore the foster parents' violation of the children's integrity and religious beliefs.

The family of the two who are expected to stand trial on trumped up charges wish you the best of luck in your attempt to secure guilty verdicts. We had in the past put up so much faith in the Swedish legal system, the efficiencies of its investigation team and a strong sense of justice but now all these has totally dissolved into thin air when the charges, totally unbelievable, were slapped on Azizul and Shalwati.

We do not need to have legal knowledge to realize that the prosecuting officer was extremely desperate to cover the serious flaws it had committed towards the couple by slapping them with trumped up charges and trying to picture them as monsters and child abusers.

The world has came down hard on Sweden for detaining the couple for almost two months now. More serious offenders were known to be released while awaiting trial but not the two whose alleged offense were disciplining their children.

The excuse that the couple would ran away do not hold water as the court could demand and have kept their passports.

Sweden committed a more serious offense when the children of the couple were taken away and placed under the care of a non-Muslim family. As the result the children has suffered a lot, a fate much worse than the so-called violation of their integrity.

The children's religious beliefs were violated when they were made to have food where non-halal dishes were served too. They children did not eat the non-halal food but when they were asked to wash dishes, including the ones that were used to serve the non-halal food, the children's integrity and religious beliefs were seriously violated. When the children complained about this to the social service, they were told to co-operate with their foster parents.

But when the foster parents found out that the children had complained to the social service, they were severely scolded by the foster parents. Surely something is not right here. Please do not try to tell us that the foster parents do not understand the Muslim way of life. If they are willing to look after the children, they must have knowledge on Islam. Ignorance is no excuse.

The funny thing is that the foster parents are not charged for violating the integrity and religious belief of the children but are asked to be witnesses against the children's parents for alleged abuse! What a classic double standard by a first world nation.



Thursday, 6 February 2014

THE CHILDREN FROM SWEDEN

I am, and I believe we all are, very grateful to the Government of Malaysia which,through diplomatic channels, has managed to bring back the 4 unfortunate children who have been separated from their parents now being detained for having allegedlytransgressed the child rights law in Sweden.

Thankfully, after being forced to live with strangers (foster family) in Sweden they are back in Malaysia, surrounded by familiar faces of their close relatives, although their beloved parents are still not with them. How they yearn for the hugs and kisses of their mother and father, I cannot imagine.

Since their arrival, right from the time they stepped foot at KLIA they have beenhounded by the media. I am fully aware that this is a case of public interest and the people ought to know what has been happening to this unfortunate family. The media hype continues to this day and I suspect come Sunday when the older children start schooling there will yet be another media circus.

I sincerely hope that the media is by now satisfied that they have done what they are supposed to do and has had enough of it. Thereafter please leave them be to settle down and adjust to new environment, and hopefully they will soon be reunited with their parents.

We have always been talking about “in the best interest of the children”, but have we given thought to what they must have gone through? First, they were forcefully separated from their beloved parents and made to live with strangers in an environment alien to them. Then, upon returning to Malaysia they have endlessly been faced with strangers and exposed to the limelight. It is felt that they have been excessively and unnecessarily exposed.

Have a heart! Please observe the photographs of the children, especially the youngest one. They look bewildered and overwhelmed. Despite all the goodies they receive from well-wishers, there was no smile because what they need most right now is the presence of their parents. They are sad and living in pain.

As a social worker, I feel for the children. They need to be protected, and let us allow those who have the responsibility to look after them now to perform their respective duties quietly and without hindrance. We pray that the trauma they had gone through could be cushioned by the close relatives who, I am certain, will shower the care and attention and above all, the love upon these innocent children.

For us the caring members of society, let us now pray for the early return of the parents so that the children can have them back. Only with the return of the parents that the wounds inflicted on these children could be healed in time.

- Datuk Abdullah Malim Baginda








Wednesday, 29 January 2014

END ARIF MISERY...RETURN HIS PARENTS

SEVEN-YEAR old Arif has been waiting for 1,056 hours or 44 days to see his mummy  Shalwati Norshal and daddy Azizul Raheem Awaludin. Both his parents are under detention and expected to be brought before the court at 6pm (local time) today to determine whether they would be released or detained for another two weeks.

Both Shalwati and Azizul were under police custody from Dec 18 last year on suspicion of excessively disciplining their children at home. The act was considered a serious offence under Swedish law.

Arif often cried whenever he thought about his Mummy and had been pestering his older siblings to make arrangement to visit Malaysia  so that he could see his Mummy and Daddy. To the poor boy, he thought both of them were on tour of duty in Malaysia!

Families of the couple, relatives,neighbors, friends and sympathizers had been praying hard for Shalwati and Azizul unconditional release. They are innocent and had only exercised their rights as Muslims parents to educate the children.


Sunday, 26 January 2014

SHALWATI IS MY AUNT AND PROUD OF IT...


Waking up in the middle of the night due to having a confusing dream in the form of a slide show regarding news articles of Miss Shal's case  gave me a pang of insomniac moment. 

I saw flashes of memory clips in my dream of growing up with her that made me realise how much I miss her. Seeing what people have been saying and writing about Miss Shal and her family gave birth to this mixed feeling of sadness and longing.

Before this, the distance had never taken a toll on our relationship for the family and her we can always communicate using multiple mediums. But now, it had left an empty space in our hearts that only can be filled after all this mayhem is settled. And we wished and pray hard for the day to come soonest. 

Tonight, in my dream I’ve seen a few flashbacks of Miss Shal. How she was always so independent with her little red car that she had used for so many years. That is Miss Shal, with her tagline of “ tok soh nyusoh...(no need to trouble anyone)” doing mostly everything on her own and excellent with it had always been so inspiring.   

 How I remember when I was young, waiting at my grandma’s door for the little red car to reach our kampung for Eidul Fitri had always been exciting. Reminiscing as a little kid, she combed my hair into a perfect ponytail and cute buns while giving me tips how to take good photos, saying that we the family have photogenic genes. That is Miss Shal, always known for her wits, filling the family’s kitchen with her cheeky smile and laughter while always being the wise head among other siblings in a family quarrel. 

Miss Shal might be portrait as a strict person on some cases but you can always expect her to see things from a different angle during  discussions and always so understanding and very comforting to be around with. Those traits of her make her an excellent school teacher. I can bet that there have been so many girls came and sought her advise and guidance in life abd I am one of them.

I remember my childhood days where I spent my holidays staying at her place even before she had her own family, where we talked about mostly everything, how she perfected my tajwid for my daily prayers, reading the Quran after prayers and free English lessons at night before we settle for our sleep. That had been the ritual slumber party for the nieces. Yes, she is my aunt and I am proud of her. 

She is a great mom and raised her kids well. How do I know this? Her kids are the most pleasant bunch of kids you have ever met. They conversed well, polite and ever so humble. Her 1st born, Aisyah, inherit her mom’s wits and matured way beyond her age. The other 3 boys were a normal bunch of generation Y kids where they loved their gadgets and video games and yet still squeak and gush over babies and baby animals.

 They were always so helpful and fun to be with and if you were driving them around, their mom will ask them to recite the  Ayatul Qursi and few more Quranic verses to ease the journey. These kids were fun, loving and passionate kids as they were raised well by their parents.

Now, the situation had taken away their smile and put them in a very dark moment in their life and I am sure that they had been traumatised by what is happening and I wonder if it will leave an ugly scar and will it ever heal. Praying for the best and praying hard for it. I am sure that Miss Shal and her family would do the same if we were in their shoes.

--AKQMIE







Saturday, 25 January 2014

Swedish Authorities Interview Several Malaysian Muslim Families



BERNAMA/23JAN2014

KUALA LUMPUR, Jan 23 (Bernama) - Swedish authorities have interviewed several Malaysian Muslim families to accommodate four siblings, currently under the care of a non-Muslim family after their parents were detained.

"The choice of which Malaysian Muslim family is qualified to care for the four siblings will be made soon," said a Foreign Ministry officer when contacted by Bernama Thursday.

Meanwhile, Malaysian Volunteer Lawyers Association (SukaGuam) chairman Datuk Khairul Anwar Rahman said the transfer of the four siblings to a new foster family is expected to be completed within a week.

"The Swedish authorities have given undertaking that the four siblings will be handed over to a Muslim foster family to care for their welfare," he added.

Khairul Anwar is serving as mediator to help the transfer of the four siblings aged 7, 11, 12 and 14 years from a non-Muslim family to a Muslim family.

Their parents, Azizul Raheem Awalludin and Shalwati Nurshal were detained by Swedish police on December 18 last year for allegedly beating them for not praying.

Azizul is the Director of Tourism Malaysia based in Stockholm while his wife Shalwati is a teacher on unpaid leave in Sweden.

No charges have been brought against Azizul and Shalwati and their remand period has been extended two weeks.

Khairul Anwar said SukaGuam would monitor the situation and if nothing happened, he would leave for Sweden with Umno Youth next week.

Earlier, media reports said SukaGuam and Umno Youth would leave for Sweden soon to assist in the tranfer of the four siblings to a Muslim family so that they can live as Muslims.






Friday, 24 January 2014

DEAR CHILDREN OF AZIZUL AND SHALWATI


AISYAH, Ammar, Adam and Arif,
  Please accept the deepest love from your Grandparents, Uncles, Aunties and Cousins in Malaysia. All of us are sad as to what had happened to all of you. 

  In our prayers, we appealed to Allah The All Mighty and His Messenger to quickly end your predicament. All four of you are innocent and should not be made to endure such a painful experience. 

  Indeed, the unusual strength and patience shown by the four of you in managing the situation put some of us to shame.  all of you put up a brave front in public but we know how you all truly feel.

  Rest assured children that you are not alone. Your family here, Malaysians from all walks of life, international communities share your pain too. We will continue to galvanise support to the whole world if it need be to unite the four of you with your parents once more.

  No nation can go against the will of the world community. And no nation should be allowed to destroy the joy and happiness of a family. After all "To err is human and to forgive divine". Mistakes do happen but bigger mistakes should not be allowed to happen. Separating parents from their children is a bigger mistake.

  We want you to enjoy the gifts we bought for you. They will arrive in Stockholm soon. We hope the gifts would soften the pain. Hopefully they would be delivered to all of you soon. To our friends thank you for the prayers and kind words. We are totally indebted to all who assisted and share our pains.


for Ariff


For Aisyah

For kids -- Aisyah, Ammar, Adam, Ariff




Thursday, 23 January 2014

Diplomatic Efforts Sufficient To Help Malaysian Couple - Anifah

BERNAMA/22JAN2014

KUALA LUMPUR, Jan 22 (Bernama) -- The Malaysian Embassy in Sweden has taken sufficient diplomatic efforts to assist a Malaysian couple detained by Swedish authorities for allegedly hitting one of their four children on the hand for not praying. Foreign Minister Datuk Seri Anifah Aman said: 


"We respect Swedish laws and do not want to make matters worse...rest assured, we are doing everything we can to help the family."Officers from the Malaysian Embassy have met with the children and their parents. We are doing everything we can to help solve the matter. 


"The main priority is the wellbeing of the children involved. "He said this after meeting with Turkmenistan Foreign Minister Rashid Meredov at the Institute of Diplomacy and Foreign Relations here today.The couple, Azizul Raheem Awalludin and his wife, Shalwati Norshal, a teacher on unpaid leave, have been remanded since Dec 18, to facilitate investigations for allegedly hitting their child on the hand for not praying.


The four children are currently staying with a foster family provided by Sweden's state social service.




Wednesday, 22 January 2014

Tak Tinggal solat Lima Waktu

HARIAN METRO 23/1/2014
Kuala Lumpur: “Kami semua sihat, tidak sakit. Saya baca Yasin dan dengar surah lain menerusi YouTube,” kata Aisyah, 14, anak kepada pasangan Azizul Raheem Awalludin dan Shalwati Norshal yang ditahan pihak berkuasa Sweden sejak 18 Disember lalu.
Menerusi perbualan media sosial bersama saudara terdekatnya, di sini, awal pagi semalam, anak sulung daripada empat beradik itu turut memaklumkan mereka masih menunaikan solat lima waktu biarpun berjauhan dengan ibu bapanya.
Menurut ahli keluarga yang enggan dikenali itu, Aisyah memaklumkan, adik lelakinya itu turut menyatakan rasa menyesal atas apa yang berlaku selepas ibu dan bapa mereka ditahan atas tuduhan mendera.
“Walaupun tidak menunjukkan reaksi rasa kesal di hadapan rakannya, tetapi dari perbualan kami dia memang menyesal apa yang berlaku,” katanya dalam perbualan itu.
Kenyataan itu menjawab persoalan banyak pihak yang bimbang jika keempat-empat mereka tidak dapat menjalankan kewajipan sebagai seorang Islam selepas dijaga keluarga angkat bukan Islam di negara itu.
Kisah pasangan suami isteri dan empat anak berkenaan mendapat perhatian banyak pihak di negara ini yang meminta agar inisiatif tertentu diambil untuk membawa pulang mereka ke negara ini atau dibenarkan untuk tinggal bersama keluarga Muslim di sana.
Kelmarin, Duta Besar Malaysia ke Sweden Datuk Badruddin Ab Rahman menerusi perbualan bersama Pengerusi Biro Aduan Komuniti Pemuda UMNO memaklumkan pihaknya sedang berusaha untuk membela nasib keluarga itu, namun pada masa sama berharap semua pihak di Malaysia bertenang.
Ia susulan beberapa badan bukan kerajaan termasuk Gabungan NGO Melayu/Islam yang menghantar memorandum kepada Kedutaan Sweden di ibu negara meminta mereka dijaga keluarga Muslim.
Sementara itu, EXCO Pemuda UMNO Sheikh Nafiq Alfirdaous berkata, pihaknya akan memantau perkembangan kes berkenaan secara dekat dan memaklumkan kepada masyarakat sekiranya ada perkembangan terbaru.
“Kami mahu ia ditangani tanpa implikasi perundangan. Setakat ini, kita yakin ia boleh diselesaikan kerana ia bukan kes jenayah," katanya. 
Akhbar ini melaporkan ahli keluarga terdekat menyerahkan kes berkenaan kepada kerajaan untuk membantu biarpun mendapat pelawaan pelbagai pihak yang ingin membantu termasuk daripada beberapa pertubuhan bukan kerajaan (NGO). 




Let Them Go Sweden


“We want the world to know they did no wrong and do not deserve to be detained for loving their children,” said families of Azizul Abdul Raheem and his wife Shalwati Norshal as to why they set up this blog.

They argued that parents who truly love their children would exercise some form of discipline on their children so that they grow up knowing the difference between good and bad.

In this case, Azizul and Shalwati are no different. While they discipline their children, they did not subscribe to inflicting severe corporal punishment on them. They never did. They love their children too much.

Hence, the families of both Azizul and Shalwati felt most hurt when the word “alleged abuse” was used by the media to describe why the couple was detained by the Swedish police over a month now.

They were a happy family, were often seen travelling together, collecting berries in the woods during the summer weekends.  They love to travel across Europe and the families here were often showered with pictures of their trips.

When they came home for holidays in Malaysia, the scenes at the grandmother’s house were often chaotic. Everyday were full of laughter, screams and games. Barbeque and karaoke were a must. Parents and children took turn on the microphones singing their heart out.

Certainly, these are not signs of tyrannical parents out to abuse their children.

Indeed the messages put up by the children in their Facebook lately clearly show how much they missed their parents.  Why would the children be missing their parents, if the were tyrants.









Tuesday, 21 January 2014

'Culture Clash' In Swedish Case

NST/18jan14
MALAYSIAN COUPLE DETAINED: Authorities should have placed kids with a Muslim foster family, says relative
#swedenletthemgo



KUALA LUMPUR: A FAMILY member of a Malaysian couple who were arrested by the Swedish police for allegedly disciplining their child who refused to pray, is hoping the authorities there will be more sensitive when handling the case.

He said the case was a classic one, involving a clash of cultures, with the Swedish authorities and social service failing to look into the religious and cultural aspects of the children, who have since been placed in foster care.

"They (the children) should have been placed in the care of a Muslim family," he told the New Straits Times yesterday. He said the authorities should have consulted the Malaysian embassy there and looked for a Malaysian family to care for the children while the parents were in detention. According to sources, the couple were detained by Swedish authorities in Stockholm last December, after a report was made by one of their children to a teacher, who consequently reported them to the Swedish police.

In Sweden, the law states that "a child may not be subjected to physical punishment or other injurious or humiliating treatment". However, in Malaysia, there is a clearer understanding between spanking as a corrective tool for children and physical abuse. It is learnt the couple appeared in court on Thursday and their remand period has been extended for another two weeks.

The husband is an employee of Tourism Malaysia while the wife is a secondary school teacher, who is on unpaid leave. The Tourism and Culture Ministry is believed to have sent a representative to assist the couple. The couple's children are in the care of the Swedish social welfare authorities and were reported to be unhappy living in the home of a non-Muslim foster family. The eldest of the four, who only wished to be known as Aisyah, 14, said she and her three brothers, aged 12, 11 and 7, had been staying with the foster family, as arranged by Swedish social services after their parents were detained on Dec 18. 

Aisyah said they were not happy staying at the foster home, as the family kept a dog. "They also eat food that is not halal. Although they do not feed us non-halal food, we share the crockery and kitchen utensils." Aisyah said they were not allowed to meet relatives from Malaysia, nor were they allowed to meet with their parents. She said a week after their parents' arrest, their relatives from Malaysia visited Sweden to meet her and her brothers, but were not allowed to do so by Swedish authorities.

The couple's second child, Ammar, said they wanted to return to Malaysia as they could not stand living with strangers.
"I miss mummy and daddy.
"We want to go back to Malaysia, but they won't let us.
"We are sad each time we come back from school, as our parents are not around.
"Before this, mummy and daddy would send and fetch us from school.
"Now, we have to go by public transport ourselves.
"Our youngest brother cries every day because he misses mummy and daddy," he said.